Updates of all updates.

I'm moving.

I'M MOVING TO FLORIDA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG.

Soooooooo. The blog will be put on hold for a bit until I get settled in and what not.

But have no fear, if I have this exciting of dating adventures in Wisconsin, I'll for surely have more in Florida.

OMG I'M MOVING TO FLORIDA!!!!!! :):)

I'm bored.

With eHarmony. And basically with everyone and everything in my life.

I went out w/ a guy tonight. We shall call him High School because I went to high school w/ him. Yes, Aimee I'll email you and tell you who it is.

I went out w/ him as a friend, he contacted me and had no clue who I was. High school was a dork then and well so was I. We were emailing back and fourth and he was asking me boring email questions, so I point blank said I hated emailing and we should just meet up as friends for a drink. No harm right? Just friends.

HOLY AWKWARD. He was nervous for some odd reason. Dude, just friends. I have nothing better going on for a Saturday night, so I figured this would be fun to maybe make a new friend. I WAS WRONG.

No friendship connection whatsoever. I was bored. I kept thinking how much fun I'd be having if I was out w/ my girlfriends right now hitting on guys compared to me sitting here at the bar talking to him. Booooooooooooooring.

eHarmony started out on a high note, but is slowly declining to Match.com status. Great, I only have 5 months left of this crap.

Yeah, I should be positive, but I'm not. I'm annoyed. I just want to "click" with SOMEONE. But instead, I leave these dates/meet ups depressesed.

I'd totally give that date a 10/10

If we just spent the whole time emailing each other instead being face to face.

I went out w/ Leigh. I don't even have a nickname for him for his lack of nickname worthy. Over email, this guy was hilarious. Funny guy. Totally getting a "he seems really really funny"

Within 3 1/2 min I wanted to leave. He wasn't a jerk or anything. But there was noooooooo connection. I felt more connection over email than I did talking to him.

I dunno if he couldn't hear well, but I'd say things and he couldn't understand it or get what I was saying at all. It was weird. Tons of awkward silences AND we just sat there asking each other questions and NOT having a conversation. Blah blah blah. Ugh.

Oh I should probably tell more details of the dates recap:
Met at 6:30 for sushi
Sushi arrived
Ate sushi
Was out of there by 7:35pm

But since we didn't email during the date, I give him a 5/10.

There is something missing.

I can't pin point it either.

Army boy and I went out to dinner tonight. I traveled up to his region for dinner and bowling. It was fun. I never once was bored or cringed at anything he said. No awkward silences, funny stories. Even when I saw him again I thought "yeah he is cute"

But something just isn't there. I don't feel this connection. Some sort of spark. Normally on the 2nd date I want to kiss (hell you all know I put out on the first date) so for me to be at the 2nd date and sprinting out of his truck is not a good sign.

It sucks. He is a nice guy. Like a nice guy that doesn't just say he's a nice guy to sleep with me. He even made sure to text me and let him know when I made it home safe. That's nice. That's what I would have wanted any other of the jerk guys I have dated to do for me.

I honestly don't see myself falling for him like I want to fall for someone.

I know some people are probably thinking "Golly (did I just write golly?) Andrea, you bitch and complain about the jerks in your life and a nice guy comes along and you get rid of him" But this isn't about him being a nice guy. I don't feel a connection. Weirdly enough, I'm proud of myself right now. 9 out of 10 times if I'm not feeling something I just ignore it and go on my merry little way.

I'm putting me first though right now. And I'm ok getting rid of the nice guy in hopes that I'll meet someone who will be the right guy for me. Aww that's so poetic.

Hey! Let's watch the hockey game...

First things first. I'd like to thank both Kate and Tom for voting in this week's "where do I take my date?" While both of you voted downtown Great Dane location, I went out on my own and decided to Fitchburg. For reasons I have no clue why. Thank you for taking your time out of your day to vote.

Army boy and I have been talking for about a week now, he is from a bit far away too. Like 1 1/2 hours away from me. He told me that he would travel down to meet me. Sweet, no driving to his town and getting lost. I get lost easily, what can I say?

I originally suggested we meet up at the Great Dane to watch some UW Hockey, this way in case he was boring me, I'd be able to focus my attention the game and not him. Makes sense no? Well we met up for dinner and drinks at the Great Dane. We started chatting right away, not too much awkwardness which was nice. About half way through eating our dinner, I asked what time it was since I figured the game would be starting by now. Yeah, it was like 7:45pm. The game I had thought started at 7pm. Hmmm so apparently the Great Dane decided to not broadcast this game for us. So I kind of felt like an idiot for sayin "let's watch the hockey game, you like hockey Army Boy, this will be fun" and there was no hockey. But lucky for me, I didn't need the hockey game to divert my attention from Army boy. He was quite entertaining for me. I was definitely having a good time talking with him. I thought he was pretty cute. Not omg cute, but I think as the night went on, his personality made him cuter. Make sense? In my head it does. Anywhoo, I rated the date a 8 out of 10. He seems like a "nice" guy. And when I say "nice" I mean, he's usually a guy I probably wouldn't go for since he's not my typical "bad" boy. I think I'll give the "nice" guy a chance.

After the date he sent me this text "I had a great evening with you Andrea. Thank you:)" And then this afternoon he text me asking how my day was and then invited me up to his region for dinner. I declined due to me hanging out w/ my friend Tommy. And I'm trying that whole "playing hard to get" thing.

Not sure if I have a date on Wednesday and Thursday with two other randoms from eHarmony. They haven't confirmed yet with me.....I shall keep y'all posted!

Don't hate the playa, hate the game.

The game is being played.

D had to cancel last week for our 2nd date due to work. He warned me he is on call 24/7. Ok that's fine. But to cancel on me TWICE in one week? I of course went to my friends on this and asked the question "is this dude blowing me off? hoping to get a clear answer.

1/2 said he was a jerk and was blowing me off
1/2 said he said he is into me still

Well, I'd have to say, the 1/2 that said he was blowing me off might be right. Guess who hasn't talked or called me since last Friday when he sent me the text saying he couldn't hang out that night? Yup. D.

Yes, when he cancelled he did try to reschedule for Saturday night. I told him I was busy that night (total lie I sat on my couch alllllll night long, but this is the game we are playing now right?)

I'm not going to be the girl to drop everything if a guy asks me out last minute like that. Sure I could have went out w/ him, but then he'd be winning. He would know that at the drop of a hat, I'd be there. I'm not going to do that.

He may still call or text, which is fine, but I may or may not be busy too.

I've got 3 potential dates set up for the near future. Saturday night might be w/ an Army Boy (ohhh my military men weakness!) Then two other random guys for Wednesday and Thursday.

D who?

Game.Set.Match!

1 1/2 dates in...

3:35pm text from D: Hey! Do you have plans tonight?

Whoa. A guy who went out w/ me once, wants to go out w/ me again AND it's not even 24 hours since the first date?

I'll admit, I pondered for a bit if I should do something w/ him so soon. Becki told me if she were in my shoes, she wouldn't do it. She would want to appear "cool" and have a life. News flash, the most on my agenda tonight was to do some over due homework, and really the only reason I said I was going to do that is cuz Becki told me. Like I really wanted to do homework.

I text back: Just doing some homework tonight, why what's up?

D texts back: Thought you might want to go to a movie w/ me, it's not a date, just friends going to a movie:)

Hahaha. Right. I weighed the pros and cons.
Pros:
Hanging out w/ D
Seeing a movie
More makeout action

Cons:
Doing homework

Winner was going to a movie. He picked me up and again, opened my car door. I def can get used to this. We went to the movie where he held my hand. It was cute:)

Came back to my place after and sat in his car and talked for a bit and of course made out a bit.

I asked him what the plan was for Friday for our actual 2nd date and he said he wasn't sure yet, but it would be a "nice" date. Hmmm let's try to remember the last actual "nice" date I went on. Yeah I'm still thinking...........

I'm goin' through the Big D and don't mean Dallas

Don't ask where I got this title from. Well besides it's a great Mark Chestnutt song. Google it.

D and I were supposed to go out last Thursday night. At the last minute, well 4 hours prior to the date, he had to cancel becauase he was stuck up north. I was not a happy camper, but he at least text me and told me. Well Friday night my friend Brooke text me saying she couldn't go to the UW Basketball game w/ me on Sunday. Originally in our texts he had asked if I could hang out Sunday night first, but since I had the game w/ Brooke I told him I couldn't. Well since now I was open Sunday night I figured I would text him to see if he was interested in going to the game w/ me, something quick and casual ya know? I text him Friday night saying my friend couldn't come and if he wanted he could come with me. He said he had gotten an offer to go to the Packer game that day. After I got that text I just assumed he was going to that.

Saturday night I got a text from him saying "if you still have that ticket available for the UW game tomorrow, I'll take it" Umm huh? I thought he was going to the Packer game. Well since it was available I told him so, well he FINALLY just called me and we talked for 20min. He said he did have an offer for BOX SEATS AT THE PACKERS VS COWBOYS GAME and he gave them up to hang out w/ ME. That's right ME. I even told him he was crazy for this. Crazy. And it better be a damn good date now huh? Lot's of pressure.

D picked me up (I know 2 people who know him so I felt safe having him pick me up) we went to BW3's for wings and beer and to watch the Packer game before going to the UW game. I'm a die hard Packer fan and I actually found it hard to pay attention to the game, we were talking that much and having a good time. It was awesome. We laughed a ton too. We then headed to the UW game and of course got in there right before half time. Oops, if Wisconsin was playing a tough team I might be angry, but we were playing some no name school so it was fine by me. Again, we watched the game, but talked and had a great time. He even had his arm around me too. Oh and D seems to know the right people in Madison because he always has box seats for sporting events, so it was kind of funny making him sit w/ the "regular" people.

After the game he drove me back home where we shared a few good night kisses. I did not sleep w/ him and whore it up. GO ME!

Highlights of the date:
He opened my car door. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME
Helped take off my jacket when we got to the game
He told me I had beautiful eyes and smile.
He kept telling me how sweet I was
He also said he was glad he didn't go to the Packer game
And he just text me asking when our 2nd date was.

eHarmony-1 Match.com-0

As you recall, last year I did Match.com and successfully went on 7 first dates and 1 second date. Which in my mind was kind of a failure.



As of Sunday evening, eHarmony has sent me 27 potential dudes. Like actual good dudes too. On Friday I had gotten a guy we shall call "D" interested. We did the standard questions we had to send back and fourth to each other, along w/ the must haves and can't stands. Then good old Dr. Warren sent his message to us and then we were free to chat. D emailed me and he seemed like a cool dude, he invited me out Saturday to Babe's because I had said I liked country music, and he said his friend was in a country band that was playing. Of course Friday evening when I came home from my one birthday party, I was a bit intoxicated when I got his email, being the smart intoxicated person, I refrained from emailing him at that point. On Saturday morning when I was a bit sober, I sent him an email saying I was going to be going to the UW Hockey game for my birthday party #2, but I wasn't sure what was going on after, so I gave him my number and told him to call me and maybe we could meet up.



So after we got done w/ the hockey game we headed to the Nitty Gritty. I got a text from D asking how the game was and what was all going on, I told him I was at the Nitty Gritty and he asked if it was ok if he could stop by and buy me a shot. Buying me shots is one way to my heart. He then asked how many people where there w/ me. I told him there was 7 of us. We were at the upstairs area hanging out and about 5 min later D showed up. Right away I knew it was him. He sent me a text saying he was at the upstairs part of the bar and to look for him. I went over to him and said hi, and we talked really briefly. He had a huge tray of shots of Dirty Girl Scout shots so I asked them who they were for. He said "your friends" Umm yes, he bought shots for me and all my friends. Umm hi. Awesome. And they were really good shots too, even better. He also bought me a beer when we were up there as well. Big points for D within the first 5 minutes.



We chatted for a few minutes, when the Nitty Gritty decided to put the heat on full blast, I sat there holding my beer and was wiping my sweat mustache I was that hot. Everyone was hot. So I said I couldn't stay there because the heat was making me want to vomit. We then left the bar and sat outside the Nitty Gritty for 30 minutes talking. I was still w/ a few my friends and D was fitting in like he had known them for years. It was great!



We decided to leave, but D said he had to go back home and take care of his drunk friend that was at his house. We kind of parted ways in an awkward way, not bad, but it wasn't the solidified good bye I wanted.



We got to the next bar and of course my freak out mode began and right away, Aimee's husband Henry told me I was over thinking it way to much already. Ummm he was right. Tell him I said that Aimee:)



This morning at 9:15am I got a text from him saying good morning and asked how the rest of my night was. We text back and fourth and he said he would like to hang out w/ me one on one sometime and asked what I was doing for the day. I stupidly figured he was asking me if I wanted to do something, not the standard what are you doing. I told him what I was doing and that if he wanted to hang out later that night I was free. He then replied that he was busy tonight, but would love to hang out this week or next weekend sometime.



We shall see what happens and when we will be able to get together. I'm excited so far, but as we have learned from my history, I need to not the jump the gun and start planning my wedding. I do also have a huge inventory of men that I need to read through their profiles too.



Stay tuned for more details.........................

Oh no, hell no, boy went up and done it.

I done it.

I signed up for Eharmony. Happy Birthday to me? I turn 27 in 30min, and this is how I celebrate? By signing up for a dating web site.

Can you tell how thrilled I am right now? I better get some drinks out of this. Or hell maybe a relationship.

Of course I will chronicle my dating experiences for entertainment purposes only.

Let the 6 month ride begin.....NOW (yes it was cheaper for 6 months than 3 months)

All good things come to those who wait....

Things that always seem like a good idea, but then in the end they aren't:

1. Body shots. Sure it's all fun and games until you are puking your brains out.
2. Hiking. Good idea till I roll my ankle yet again. And now I can't exercise for awhile.
3. Trying to date hot new coworker and end up having sex with him. Things get weird and now there is a whole bunch of awkwardness instead.

I'm of course mainly talking about choice number 3. Plenty of people I know have met their significant other thru work. How could it not work?

Umm cuz I royally messed it up by sleeping with the dude on the first date. Doh!

Now instead of smiling at each other and thinking, I can't wait to see you again! It's nothing. It's the blank stare of "yeah lets not even try to remember what happened" looking at the ground instead of making eye contact, coming into the break room and not saying anything to me. 2 weeks ago, HE jumped at the chance to talk to me when I was in the break room. Now he scurries away.

This sucks. As Kate told me "Andrea, you have to stop sleeping with these guys on the first date"

It's true. I did a flipping survey about it too, 9/10 people agreed. I need to stop whoring it up on the first date. Which is hard for me to do. Honestly. It's not like I'm proud of it, but we all know I like to have fun, but guess what happens when I have fun? The guys run. Far far far far away. And then guess who is not having fun anymore? This girl right here.

So, here it goes. I'm going to try to wait with the next guy.

How crushes become not crushes. By talking.

Back my popular demand, or Fred and Aimee were really the only ones to complain about my lack of blogging. I'm back. But really, I'm choosing to blog about my nonsense of boys and what not.

Remember Bus driver? It was two posts ago. Anywhoo. He did end up calling me one night and asked why I never called him about lunch. Umm I did. I left a voicemail. Standard stuff buddy. He went on and on saying I didn't. Ok whatever, so he did his usual "well maybe tomorrow night we can get a drink" yeah sure, umm I'm not going believe anything you say anymore.

Thursday night comes and my door bell rings. No one ever visits me unannounced in my neck of the woods. There my cousin Chris (Bus Drivers old roommate) was. He was in the neighborhood visiting Bus Driver and thought he'd visit me. We start chatting and I brought up Bus Drivers random annoyance of everything. Chris pointed out that he is just a weird guy. Chris called Bus Driver and said he was hanging out w/ me. We called my other cousin to come over. Then we headed over to Bus Driver's house.

Within 5min of arriving I was over my had been crush on Bus Driver. Obviously after the shady parts of him were exposed I was done having the crush. But I thought this guy could redeem himself. HAHAHAHAHAAHA I wanted to stuff a sock in his mouth he was that annoying. Guess what he spent the majority of his night talking about? Buses. I'm not kidding.

Of course I ended up getting drunk as hell because well I had nothing else to do. It was a fun night. But I'm glad this crush has come to an end.

Now if only I could get over someone else now too.....

3...2....1...

3 years ago Stupid Boy was breaking up w/ me for the 14,000th time

2 years ago I was sleeping with a guy who I knew had a girlfriend and I was dating Tony Bologna

1 year ago I embarked on this dating challenge

And today. I'm still alone. Very alone. Yes, I have friends and family. But it's not the same.

Did I honestly think that after a year of this, I would still be in the same exact position I was in when I went out on that first Match.com date w/ that Scott guy? Nope. I thought I would come away with something. Something. But I have nothing. Again, I'm not talking friends and family.

I can't tell you the amounts of texts I have read over and thought "what does this guy mean?' Or the he says one thing but does another thing.

I actually went on a date with a guy over a week ago, but I kept it secret from here. Maybe if I didn't blog about it I would have success. Wishful thinking on my part. It of course is not going anywhere. The kicker of course "I like you Andrea, but I don't want to be in a committed relationship" Yup and also tell me what a great girl I am before you kick me in the heart. Thanks dude.

I'm done. I've cried enough tears over guys at this point. I've blogged a years worth here. Not gonna lie, it's sad and pathetic.

I don't know when I'll start blogging again. I'm not trying to be a whole pity party here. I obviously can't seem to get this dating thing right or even friendship with a guy right (speaking of the Bus Driver, he contacted me again and said "lets go to lunch" stupidly I believed he wanted to and called. Yup. He never returned my call). No matter what I do or say with a guy. It's wrong. People tell me to just be me. And I am. I just give up at this point.

Color me confused.

As we continue to follow my crush/friend saga this is what all went down. I'm so fking confused right now. Does he or doesn't he want to be my friend?

Last you heard, Bus Driver called me last Friday night to apologize for not going out for his bday and him not calling me until two days later. In his voicemail he says "give me a call if you want to get a beer sometime next week"

I call him Monday night after class and leave a simple voicemail of "Hey it's Andrea, just seeing what's going on, give me a call back" He then texts me an hour later and says "Hey! Just got out of a school board meeting (no he isn't a baby daddy) Fun Stuff! I'll give you a holla later this week"

Ok cool. It's a Monday night. I'm thinking by Wednesday, Thursday or Friday he'd give me a "holla"

No holla came. So, I put on my big girl panties and decided to do something I hate to do. Text a guy once he says he will be in contact with me. But, I figured what the heck, I'm going for just friends here, so I can't be that annoying can I?

I text "Dude..It's Miller Time..holla back yo" Yes, I'm all gangsta and fun like that. That way it's an open invitation to drink some delicious Miller Lite, right?

I get this text back-
Bus Driver: In BRF

WHAT THE FK IS BRF? I call up my decoding buddy Louise and ask her. She has no clue what it is. I keep thinking, brief? Like he will call me back briefly? I turn to Google then because Google tells all. And holy crap Google answered my question.

BRF=Black River Falls.

Ooooooooh. The town he moved from. Ok that makes sense, but umm weren't you going to "holla" at me oh at the end of the week. It's Friday and you are 2 hours away.

A bit annoyed at this point after figuring out BRF, I text back "Ok nevermind"

I then dial my cousin Betsy to do the normal "what the heck is going on the Bus Driver!?!?" While dialing her, I get a text back from Bus Driver saying-

"Sorry dear....will be back on Sunday...."

WTF? Dear? Dear? You just called me dear. Dear to me is a kind of different word to use and to use to a girl you just blew off twice. And will be back on Sunday? Is that saying "you should call me Sunday and we can hang out" or "I'm gone till Sunday so don't bother calling me back the rest of the weekend" And again, he apologizes. I'M SO CONFUSED. Yes, I know, I'm just going for the friendship, but does this dude even want to be friends w/ me if he keeps blowing me off?

I then enlisted the advice of Betsy's fiance Jeremy and Ray.

Jeremy states: Leave him alone, he doesn't want you Andrea. Guys can't have girls as friends and he doesn't want anything to do w/ you. Don't waste your time, don't call him anymore.

And Ray says: Ehhh, I wouldn't call him anymore. I think he is just a flake like most guys and doesn't realize that he is ditching you.

But then Betsy brings up this tid bit. Bus Driver emailed Betsy's mom to get Betsy's contact info because Bus Driver says he wants to make some friends down here. Betsy also keeps saying she doesn't think he is that type of a guy to do that kind of stuff. He's not your typical guy.

So here lies where I'm confused. Does he or doesn't he want friend? Did Betsy and I spend our entire evening analyzing this whole friend situation. You betcha we did (we also talked about her crummy roommate and watched Project Runway). But come on!!!!!!!!!! Would you not think what the heck is up w/ this guy?

I know you are wondering why the heck I want to be friends w/ this guy, but really I would like to have some friends that actually live on my side of town, who are close to my age, who like to drink beer, who like sporting events. Yes, I have friends that do some of these things, but lately w/ me being the lone single chick, I'm either the 3rd wheel or begging my friends to do something. It's getting old. So maybe this is why I want this guy as a friend. I dunno. I'm just frustrated with everything right now.

Well then...

Whelp. He called. Tonight at 9:57pm. Yes it's only 20min later....shut it.

Though my phone was upstairs and I was down stairs watching Top Chef. Yes, I'm fully aware it's a Friday night people and it's obvious I'm not doing a damn thing.

He gets brownie points for leaving a voicemail AND apologizing at least 5 times in the voicemail. Oh and then double bonus points for saying "I'm busy this weekend up in Fondy (is that what people from there call Fond du Lac ) but give me a call sometime next week and we can grab a beer."

And of course this was after my mental breakdown to Becki and my mom of "why can't I even make guy friends at this point? They all hate me" Insert tears too.

Am I a wee bit over dramatic? Yes.

But I will take the wise words of wisdom from everyone that I heard and simply say/think. I don't care.

Ok kidding. I totally care, I got giddy seeing he called. But, mark my words, I will not be the normal Andrea you usually see. Change is coming. And I got the hair do to prove it.

............

So he didn't call last night. I called my cousin and she gave me full permission to call him and wish him a Happy Birthday. Which I did by leaving a voicemail. Nothing.

Becki told me to not care about it. So, I'm not going to care at this point. It's *so* hard for me to not care. I care about what guys see me as. Again, I chalk this up to me being annoying and the guy totally thinking that.

I'm considering doing this challenge for myself:

http://www.rachaelrayshow.com/show/segments/view/single-girl-challenge/

90 day single girl challenge. I'm 99% sure I will fail miserably at it. I like boys too much. I'll keep y'all (y'all? Since when am I from the south?) updated if I actually take on the daunting challenge of not thinking about boys for 90 days.

I've gots a crush on somebody....

Ahhh, crushes are fun. Reminds me of back in the days when I used to chase boys around at recess trying to kiss them, writing love notes I would never give to them or driving by their house 15 times on a Friday night when I was in high school. Right Aimee?

So I'll tell you a little bit about my newest crush. I actually met Bus Driver about 3 years ago. Actually it was exactly 3 years ago this weekend. My cousin was his roommate, and he was having a going away party/Bus Driver's 25th birthday was that weekend, so me and my ex Stupid Boy went up there that weekend. Honestly, all I remember about Bus Driver was at 2am after Stupid Boy had done two-two story beer bongs in a row he wanted to go to sleep, so my cousin told me we could use the spare room. Well at 2am Bus Driver came in yelling at us that it was his mom's room for her that night and we couldn't sleep. So, that night I ended up sleeping in my sisters jeep. Flash forward to 2 1/2 years later, I'm at my cousins house again for another going away party for him (go check my post from April that I wrote about the party). My cousin no longer lives w/ Bus Driver, but Bus Driver shows up that night and starts talking to me about the job he is applying for in Middleton-Cross Plains as the head guy for bus department. I informed him that my aunt had been a driver there, so he started asking me questions about good places to live and what not. He had looked at the Mazo/Black Earth area. We chatted that night for a little bit.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago and my cousin Betsy came over to my house and was saying "Hey, remember Bus Driver, he got the job in Middleton and he lives right by you" Of course my cousin being my cousin says "Since he lives close to you, I should try setting you up" hahahaha. Right. I remembered talking to him that night and thought he was pretty cute and what not.

Then last week I was talking to my aunt, the one who drives bus for him (these are different relatives on different sides, confusing YES) and she was saying how he was asking where I lived in my neighborhood since he moved right by me. She said good things about him taking over the job and what not. I think that's where the seed got planted in my brain of "cute single guy who has a great job lives right by you"

So last night Betsy and I decided to go for a hike. We were talking about my failed set up of two weeks ago and so she asked if I would be interested in Bus Driver. See, now this is the difference in being set up w/ Bus Driver compared to the last guy. I have at least met and talked to Bus Driver, he knows what I look like and I know what he looks like. But I didn't want it to be Betsy calling him up and saying "hey my cousin is single you should go out w/ her" I want to start off as friends and go from there. Which is kind of what happened last night:)

After our hike we were hanging around Betsy called her mom to get Bus Drivers cell phone number. Betsy used my phone to call him then and see what he was up to. He said he was just getting done w/ work, so Betsy said "oh well my cousin Andrea and I were just hanging out and thought you might want to come over, but if you are working" but then he said "well I just got done, so I'd love to stop over by you guys" Whoa, I didn't expect him to say that. So we went into panic mode of trying to get me to look somewhat decent for him, but not look like I was trying to hard. Betsy of course still wearing her hiking gear, we assured that me looking better than her was a plus.

So Bus Driver gets to my place and right away he looks very cute and smells really good too. The three of us sat on the couch drinking a beer and talking. We then decided to go see his place so I could figure out where the heck he lived. So we took the less than a mile walk to his house. Wow he does live close. We then hung out at his place for a while drinking some more beer, right as I was finishing mine he gave me a new one. Suh-weet. He does have a bachelor pad, but it's a nice place. We then hiked it back to my place and cracked open another beer, but my cousin was getting tired and decided to leave. So Bus driver and I sat on the couch talking. I def did a little flirting w/ him, but nothing to hardcore. He had mentioned that it was his birthday this coming Wednesday so I said I would take him out if he wanted, and to my surprise he said that would actually be pretty cool if I did. He said he had some meeting he had to attend that night, but if he didn't have to go, he would take me up on my offer. We finished our beer and he said his bed was calling him name. I of course was tempted to say "you can spend the night here" but I didn't want to come off as a whore, seeing as he works w/ my aunt. When he left he made sure he had my number and I had his, and again mentioned going out for his bday on Wednesday.

I'm going to definitely try being more friends with him to start off with and see where it goes from there. Damn it's fun to have a crush again.

Flo-rida

You spin my head right round, right round when you go down, when you go down down. Just a little rapping for ya on a Friday afternoon for you all. What can't a white girl rap? No.

But on the topic of Florida. Guess who got invited to go down to the great state to visit Ray again? This girl right here. And best of all, it would be during January which is one of the bestest times to leave the cold Wisconsin weather to go.

I was actually pretty shocked when Ray invited me last night. Seeing as we had our drama-rama back in May, I just assumed we would just keep talking on the phone like always. But in talking to him last night he kept saying "Well the next time you visit we should do this..." Wait, hold up...Are you inviting me to Florida? He's like "yeah, why wouldn't I?" Ummm because I assumed you never wanted to see me again. We saw each other last January and what not and I just figured we were done visiting like that. He's like "well if you want we can be done visiting, but I want to see you again"

Let's go through the pluses and negatives of this:
1. Cheap trip to Florida cuz he will pay for part. PLUS
2. 1,500 mile booty call. PLUS
3. Florida in January. PLUS
4. Can I say again FLORIDA IN JANUARY!!!!!!!!!! PLUS!

Any negatives out there? Nopers. I didn't think so.

We talked about if I would maybe get a boyfriend in between now and January. Umm Ray, have you seen my track record lately? Exactly.

This makes me giddy.

Oh and I forgot to fill you in on the dude I talked to Sunday night. Yeah, that was a no-go. Honestly, after I got done talking to him I didn't feel excited or remotely wanting to talk to him again. I didn't feel a spark. I need something like that to make me want to talk to him again and it just wasn't there. I text him Monday morning saying "Hey, you are a nice guy and all, but I'm not interested, take care"

I have gone out on dates before and felt "forced" to because "he's a nice guy" even if there isn't a spark. We waste his and my time. Which is very precious, don't ya know.

Other things that pissed me off this week. Monday night I started school again, Katie one of my friends is in all my classes because we wanted to act like we were in high school again and take all the same classes together. We were talking and she said she had seen M downtown a few weeks ago and he asked about me. I haven't talked to M since I left for NYC. Then Tuesday night while I was waiting for Katie to show up to school she came in and said she had seen M again on the way into the building just now. And again he asked about me. I'm thinking well I haven't text him in awhile, I'll just say hi. This is how the convo went:

Andrea: Awww how come Katie gets to see you and I don't?
M: How come ha...
Andrea: Hmmm
M: How you been, how was the city?
Andrea: I'm ok, city was awesome. How are you?
M:I've been ok. Little stressed with school. seems like its gonna be a weird semester already.
Andrea: Aww bummer dude
M:Bummer dude LOL I'll be fine

At this point, I'm going to say "well it was good talking to you, see ya"

But the jerk face beat me to it! Right after he sends me the last text he quickly texts me-
M: Stay with the psych teacher. I'll see you around. take care

Yeah I know you can't read the tone in text, but I view it as "let me stop texting Andrea as fast as possible by saying goodbye and ending this conversation" Grr, that made me mad. I already have a complex about annoying guys, so again this solidifies that I do in fact annoy guys and they want to abruptly end conversations. It just bugged me alot.

Anywhooooooooooooooo.

Weekend plans as follows yo:
Tonight-BEER TENT. I haven't been to one yet this season.
Saturday- Gym and outlet mall shopping
Sunday-Hoooooomework. BOOO. Oh and about this homework business. There are NO cute guys in my class. At all.

Ooooooook

We just got off the phone w/ each other.

Not rock star conversation, but I'm not hating him.

We may or may not get together later this week.

Oh and we talked for 18min.

Ta-da.

Do you know what is even more terrifying to me..

Other than mice and rats? Cold calling a dude I'm supposed to be set up with. Eeeeeeeeek!

My friend Nesha said she had a guy for me. His name is Tim. That's pretty much all she gave me besides the "he's nice, funny, standard description of a dude" I of course Facebook stalked him (not my fault he doesn't keep his profile locked) He's kind of cute. My friend Becki checked out his profile and she claimed she would go out w/ him if she didn't have a boyfriend. I told Nesha to give him my number and call me.

He called me tonight. I totally forgot that I had done that, so when I saw an unknown number calling me I silenced it. Then I remembered it was probably him. Oops. He left me a voicemail. His voice at least seems normal, which is a good sign. Yes, I do go by guys voices, I think it says something.

So, now I'm just getting my nerves to call him back. I don't understand how I can have more than enough courage to have a whole baseball team sign my chest, but when it comes to calling a dude, I feel like chicken shit.

Or maybe it's the fact that every guy I have gone out w/ lately is a douche? Who knows.

But I'm going to start dialing right now!

Wait hold on I have to spell check this first....

OK. Now I will...wait wait...

I'd like to set aside a little portion of this entry to ask for thoughts/prayers/anything to give to my friend Fred. He was hurt in a horrible accident this last weekend. He is an avid reader of my blog and is probably one of the funniest guys I know. I don't want to ever take anything for granted anymore.

Just wanted to give the quick update on my life in a nutshell:

-I deleted CBB from being my Facebook friend. It felt kind of nice, doubt he will even notice, but still, get rid of the old and in w/ the new. Well there really isn't anyone new though.

-Saw The Marine at the gym Monday night. He looked good. Really really really good. Like so good I wanted to dry hump his leg. Wha? Just being honest. He didn't see me though, which is probably good, seeing as my bright red sweaty face is not attractive.

-Tonight is happy hour w/ coworkers. I love happy hour. Love love love it.

-Saturday is girls night. Wait it's always girls night in my neck of the woods. Not sure what the goal shall be for the evening though.

-For a smidge of a second I contemplated joining eHarmony. Not sure why. I suck at online dating.

How do you end a relationship with someone.....

When they don't return your phone call?

I called CBB last Friday afternoon to see how he was doing since he was in surgery. No response. Alright fine, you could be under the knife right now. Monday night I'm on Facebook and I see he is online too so I decide to be the adult here and call him. I had started to think more last week that I don't want to be with him, too much distance, me liking him but not liking him enough to make it work.

Ring, ring, ring, ring, voicemail. Leave message. Remember this is Monday night. It's Wednesday. Nothing, no call back.

Come on dude, I want to end it with you! You can't pull this avoiding me crap! Rawr.

My horizontal life-a collection of one night stands

This probably could be the title of my blog had Chelsea Handler not taken the name first. I know I have plugged her other book before too, but I just finished her other one. Awesome book! Yeah I know other people are so into that whole Twilight series, not this girl right here, I prefer to read stories that mimic my life. Go fourth and read!

Alright enough pushing books on you. On to my somewhat interesting week-weekend..

Tuesday: While contiplating sticking one of my pens in my eye while I'm at work (bad work week) I got a text from CBB. We had talked Monday night briefly and he told me how he was doing and what not. He text me asking if I wanted to pick cucumbers in his dad's garden. I'm sure many of you are saying "umm really? That sounds kind of lame-o" but honestly, being able to do something simple like that is fine with me. I hadn't seen him in a few weeks so it would be nice to just chill. And with his injury there isn't much he can do aside from sit and watch tv.

Of course on my way to his dad's house I took two wrong turns, which I quickly corrected, but if anyone knows anything about me, it was a sure sign I needed to invest in a GPS unit ASAP! When I got to his place we sat around and talked for a bit and then he mentioned that he checked the cucumber status in the garden and there aren't any in there. Umm okie dokie so onto plan B we decided to watch a movie.

Now, he picked the movie, which was a bad version of that Brad Pitt movie Fight Club. I liked Fight Club a lot. While the movie he had wasn't bad, it was just a strange strange movie for us to watch. It was filled with tons of sex scenes (not a porno though)...well what happens when you are watching a movie w/ a guy you are dating and watching?!!?!? YEAH. Except he can't fool around right now due to his injury. *sigh* Then he decided to take one of his pain pills which then of course turned him into a drunk. Great. A drunk guy. Even more fun is that I wasn't on any sort of pill. While this pill makes him act drunk it also makes him sleepy. So, by 9:30 I was walking out the door, because I had enough fun by then. We stood out in his driveway for awhile kissing. Because that's all he can do. Of course while we were kissing he mentioned that he was leaving in 16 days too. We said goodbye and that was it.

I don't know what to really think. Do I really want a relationship that I have to drive 4 hours to see him on the weekends and vice versa? He is a great guy too, that's the crappy part! Yeah I know talking to him about this would probably help, but I didn't know how to bring it up and I didn't want to talk to him about it while he was loopy on pills. Part of me would like it to maybe work, but then part of me thinks to just let him go and find someone in a 35 mile radius.

The rest of my week was pretty unremarkable until Friday night when I went to the Madison Mallard game which is a minor league team. They have this thing called the Duck Blind. All you can eat and drink for $30.00. I'm in heaven. Of course I'm the type of girl to get my monies worth too damn it! And of course I'm the type of girl to think that after the game it's a good idea to have 1/2 the baseball team sign your chest. No and I'm not talking about my t-shirt either...haha...yeah...no one saw any boobs though, it was strictly above that area, but who wouldn't want 19-20 year old signing them? You know those guys felt like rock-stars. It was a damn good night!

After my drunkenness of having guys sign my chest, we went to another hick town bar and hung out there. One older guy in a wind breaker made the comment that he liked looking at my chest while I was picking songs out on the juke box. Right dude, you are wearing a wind breaker....

My other odd thing that happened this weekend was that on Sunday morning I was sleeping cuz that's what I do so well, I got a text..........from Med Student. WTF? I haven't heard from him since our Saturday afternoon delight.

Med Student: Sleepover?

Ummm yeah, it's 9am and you are asking me to sleep over? Huh? So, I just ignored it. Well at 2pm he then texts me again and says this:

Med Student: Maybe next time then?

Again, huh? I dunno, part of me was a little curious but then part of me wants to make him chase me and work for it a little more. So I didn't respond....

City livin'

You can take the girl out of the country, but you can't take the country out of the girl. Is that how the saying goes? Well it's something like that.

Anywhoo..

I traveled to the big city of NYC last week. While it's standard for me to have a vacation hook up, I have come to write to tell you, I had no chances whatsoever to hook up w/ a cute boy on this trip. Reason #1, I was surrounded by gay guys. Yeah, my options were limited.

Aimee told me I had to give her a shout out in this blog. So, here is your shout out Aimee. THANKS FOR TAKING ME TO THE AIRPORT!!!!!!!!!

During the trip I rarely thought about boys, which was actually kind of nice! I didn't talk to Ray or CBB at all during the trip, minus the Saturday texts they sent me. It was nice not having to think/worry about anything really.

Of course when we got back I went right back to thinking about cute boys mode and totally wanted the waiter at The Cheesecake Factory. Somethings will never change.

As for CBB, you all saw the last text update, well I called him before I left for NYC. On Saturday he sent me a text saying "Hey call me when you are free, I'm going in for surgery" I called him last night after I got home and he was clearly doped up on drugs. He knew it was me and asked when I got done w/ work on Monday, so he said if he doesn't call me back by 4:30 tomorrow that I should call him. I couldn't help but laugh since he was so delirious.

Anyways, since CBB hasn't pulled this kind of crap on me before, I'm going to choose to believe that he did loose his phone for a week and well that he tore one of his muscles.

*Breaking news alert*

CBB just text me:

"Hey sorry lost my phone for a week plus went to the ER cause i found out i tore my hip flexer muscle"

And now I'm more confused. Honestly, I didn't think CBB would be a douche and just go on ignoring me. So, that would explain things.

Though I don't want to be duped and believe him like the Marine when he lies to me 99% of the time and I believed him.

What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!

Lookin' for a good time

Hmmm I don't think in the history of booty calls, I have ever got the Saturday afternoon booty call. And to much of my delight, I liked it. Here goes the story of how I'm getting over CBB, simply by getting under someone.

Friday night, aimed w/ my best eye makeup and what I thought would have been a cuter outfit, but in hind site the outfit kind of sucked. Oh well, something I did worked that night.

Louise and I were on a mission to find the best damn mojitos in Madison. We landed at Frida's which is a super yummy place to eat. After finding the best mojitos (ask for the blueberry ones) we easily downed 3 of them. We were feeling great at this point. After random texting with people, I tried getting M to come out, he declined, so I randomly text my friend Rob. Rob and I have never hooked up, which is pretty neat, I seem to hook up w/ all my guy friends. He and a bunch of his friends were hanging out at the Great Dane downtown. Louise and I made our way over to his group.

He had a random group of people he was with. I noticed a guy behind him and I asked if he knew who he was. So, Rob turned around and asked who he was. Rob turned back to us and reported he was single and a med student. Sweet, sign me up for that.

Louise and I went to the bathroom together (yes we are girls that do that) and came back to our table/area. I tried getting past the cute med student but my boob so graciously touched his arm. I apologized to him for my boob touching him. He was very cute. Shorter, dark sexy brown eyes and dressed nice. He joked he had put his popped collar up for us. We joked and talked for a bit. He excused himself to go to another table. A bit later, he said he was leaving to go to another bar where I think/can't remember what all was said, but he gave me a kiss on the cheek and said good bye. I took down his phone number and said I would call him. Rob then took over for my phone and decided to text him asking where he was. Med student replied he was at Paul's club. I didn't want to leave so we hung out longer at the Dane drinking. I then grabbed my phone and text Med student back saying he should come back to the Dane. Rob then yelled at me saying I said the wrong thing. Med student didn't text back. UGH! Seriously, how can I fk up that bad in the texting world? It was almost bar time, so I went home.

I had gotten home that night and was all settled in my bed when I get a text from Med student saying "Let's meet up" I text back that I was already home in bed.

Saturday morning I was barely waking up when I got a text. Figuring it was my friend or something, I looked and it was the Med student asking what I was doing today. What? I figured our texting had ended last night, but here he was texting me Saturday morning asking what I was doing. I told him I was nursing my hangover. He said he had one too and that he could use some couch company. Did he just ask me to hang out? I quickly text Louise asking what the heck to wear to a "getting over a hangover w/ a guy you met last night" He then text me that he was going to take a nap and that I was welcome to join him.

Hmm let's see, cute boy asks you to come nap with him. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that it was a Saturday afternoon booty call in the making. Awesome. Just what I needed/wanted.

I head over, we do the deed twice, nap and then I leave. All within a 2 1/2 hour time period. (of course during the time we are having sex I look over at this closet and notice military clothing. Seriously, he didn't mention the military once and someone how I found him)

I think I have found my calling. No more dating. Just random hook ups. I'm much better at random hook ups than dating.

All good things must come to an end...

And here it is.

CBB played the disappearing act this last week. Really dude? I hate that shit. We hung out last Thursday for a bit, things were cool. Or so I thought. Yeah, I may have asked him the question of "why do you like me?" ONLY because he has pulled that crap on me countless times before, so it's only natural for me to ask him? I guess I was wrong. We didn't text the whole time I was out of town. Wednesday night I sent a simple text asking how he was doing. And I haven't heard jack squat from him since. I hate men. What seemed like a decent enough guy, is pretty much on my shit list now. I could go on and on about how super pissed I am about this, but I don't even want to waste my time or energy bitching about him. He is a dick.

As for M. Meh, our last class is done Monday night so I'm not sure I will ever see/talk to him again. We both don't think there is enough there. Which is true, while physically I'm super duper attracted to him, I don't for see myself having a relationship with him.

He's baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

My Ray Ray.

Yes. I know, I know, I KNOW. What can I say? He has a itty bitty special place in my itty bitty heart.

How did it happen?

He poked me on Facebook. I ignored. He then sent me an email. We emailed back and fourth a bit and then last night I chatted with him on Facebook. He admitted it was DUMB for him to stop talking to me. I then let him know again, how dumb it was. He then said that it was my sister who made him realize how dumb he is.

Then I called him. I normally can't stand southern accents. But Ray's voice gets me every.single.freaking.time. I like how he says my name. So sue me.

Am I taking a risk being his friend? Yes, probably. Have some of my friends voiced their concern. Yes. I have taken notes. Am I running down to Florida to be with him? Hell no. Baby steps at this point. I do have other things going on in my life right now so that does help a bit.

Onto other exciting news:

I think M tried ending it w/ me on Monday. But I wouldn't let him. Why? I have no idea.

Buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut. CBB and I are hanging out tonight FINALLY after two weeks of not seeing each other AND texting and what not. Eeeeek. I'm excited to see the boy.

What can I say? I'll be the first to admit, I like attention from guys, so sue me, again!

I don't know what to think/do anymore...

I'll admit it. I'm a sucker for those dating self help books. The ones like "He's just not that into you" or "Why men love bitches" or my latest that is sitting right next to my bed "Act like a lady, think like a man" The number one reason I choose these books is simply because I don't know what to think/do anymore when it comes to dating.


If you look back at my history of dating dumb idiots. But am I the idiot? Am I supposed to follow these books step by step? Some say this, some say do that. It leaves me second guessing everything I do now a days. Which leaves me frustrated and unsure and makes me analyze the situation that much more. Am what I doing in this dating world normal?

I look at some people I know who have never had a problem dating. They meet. Fall in love. Get married. End of story.

Whoa. That's not how it happens in the Andrea story at all. It usually goes something like this: Meet potential guy. Guy seems semi normal. Guy is semi normal up until a point. Guy then does something usually shady to Andrea. Andrea then questions everything because basically every guy in Andrea's past has done something similar and is wondering if she will get duped again by shady stupid guy. Guy then proves all guys are scum bags. End of story. And then the vicious cycle happens again and again.

I then look at the books that I study and say "of course, in this books it points out the obvious signs of why he wasn't into me" Too bad I didn't read the book first and that way I could have gotten rid of the idiot prior to him making a fool of myself.

So case in point. Right now, M is for surely out of my life. Quick story short, by being bored at work I found out he is married and getting a divorce. Yes, getting a divorce is a good step, but being still married and him NOT mentioning it, even while one night he mentioned to me he was at the age of 19 thisclose to getting married. Ok so at 19 you were close to getting married, but by my detective work, I found out you ARE married. Awesome. But do you know what's really really really annoying me, besides the whole marriage thing? I called him Wednesday night a wee bit intoxicated. He did not return my phone call. I then called him Friday night due to school related stuff and when I asked, why he didn't return my phone call from Wednesday night, he said he never had a call from me. I then think to myself in the book "He's just not that into you" and realize, it's the year 2009 and M has an iphone. He didn't get my phone call? Riiiiiiiiight. Unless you live out by where my parents live and they don't get any cell phone reception, then sure I'll believe ya, but dude, I ain't buying it. Oh, and of course I then called him last night to thank him for school related things and he didn't call me back. But then that makes me question myself wondering if I scared him away by calling him to much. Again, since those books I read normally say "don't call a guy blah blah blah" I automatically think I'm the annoying one here and it's my fault.

And now I sit here questioning CBB's recent actions and in my head going through a timeline of everything and anything he has said/did since the last time I saw him. While a normal girl would not worry about CBB right now, I sit here and think in the back of my mind "he is just dragging me along for the ride and about to drop me at any second" It's like I'm trying to brace myself for the worst action possible, so I come to think of the worse case scenario. Welcome to my brain. Yes, telling me to just stop worrying would be awesome if I could just do exactly that.


Am I to blame in these failing relationships? Is it my fault? Is it the stupid shady guys fault? Should I throw out all and every dating book I have? (though not the one next to my bed, that's the libraries book and they aren't to fond of you throwing out their books and I'm not fond of paying a fine)

Worry wart alert.

Hey remember the time I made a post about me actually not worrying.

Here I sit 2 days later. Worried.

Why? I HAVE NO FREAKING CLUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Normally when I worry, it's because something feels "off" or it's me analyzing the heck out of a situation.

Yes, I have been thinking about what CBB said the other day. He drunk text me last night and it was cute (no serious questions were asked)

WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG W/ ME? Why can't I just chillax for once? For a whole month I have nothing but a calm cool cucumber. But now I feel like I need to be admitted or something.

I put a rubber band around my wrist for anytime I think negative things I snapped it. Not sure if this will help the situation though.

Oh yeah, and doing some searching on the Internets yesterday I found out something about M. I will wait to talk to M about what I found before I post though.

Me thinks I like CBB just a smidgen more over M right now too. Sigh.

Well...he said it!

The 3 magical words a girl wants to hear!

CBB: I know this is a little far off..but whats gonna happen when I move back to River Falls?

Ok, so maybe it's not 3 words like I said, but at this stage, for a guy to say this to me, makes me pretty excited.

Though keep in mind, this was said over a text at 2:16am while he was extremely drunk and I was sleeping. Sooo maybe not "sweep me off my feet" material. But, as you know, drunk minds are one of the most truthful/honest minds out there.

I think that I'm excited that he is actually thinking of the future w/ me maybe in it. It's been one month since we met. I have yet to have my fear of him saying "see ya" and never texting or calling me again.

Oh and of course, he is at his dad's cabin for a few days, so we have yet to continue the conversation of what's going to happen. Just my kind of luck.

As for M. Things are still going good w/ him too. After a long cruddy day Wednesday he called me up and we went to see the Ice Age 3 movie. It was cute. M is very affectionate, caring and sweet.

I'm still stuck. I like them both. They both bring different things to the table and I enjoy spending time w/ both of them. It's like picking vanilla or chocolate. I can't decide!

When it rains, it pours...

And when it pours, you look around saying WTF? How did this happen?

While I was hesitant to post about this, I figured I need to be honest. While you are all familiar w/ CBB, there is also another boy thrown into the mix now. "M" we shall call him. M and I met back in the beginning of summer, 4 days after I met CBB. I know right? I go 4 months without a date to BAM, two cute, cool guys I enjoy hanging out with. M has flown in under the radar though. It's not like how CBB and I met at all. M and I met at school. While I'm normally surrounded by 95% females in my school, this is a general ed class that I have to take, so there is a significant higher selection of dudes for me finally.

M and I were randomly picked to be in the same group for the summer class. Of course Katie and I thought he was really really good looking. He honestly reminded me of the Marine for some reason. Looks wise, he has a lot of the same features of the Marine and also his sense of humor too. A few weeks ago when I was talking to the Marine I mentioned to him that I had met the Palestinian version of him. M is from Palestine and let me tell ya, he's got a great sexy accent. That might be one of the reasons I'm totally crushing on him too.

The 2nd week of class, M and I were walking out of the building together, he mentioned he was hungry and I said I was too (ya know I can always eat!) so he asked if I wanted to go get some sushi. Me being the naive chick here, I said sure. We were eating and talking about things when he told me he thought I was really cute and funny. Of course with a mouth full of sushi and the fact I needed to shower bad I was stunned. Me? Huh? What? I think I might have looked around the restaurant in hopes he was talking about someone else. He assured me again, there was something about me that caught his attention. I was shocked. Cute guys that I think are cute first don't ever find me attractive. We continued to chat and he asked me if I had a boyfriend. If you are following the time line here, it was 1 week and 4 days since I had met CBB. So I said I am single but dating. Heck the only answer I ever know is "yes, I'm completely and utterly single" I mean, I had no idea if CBB was a legit guy or not. And really, M and I were only eating dinner together at this point.

The week in between is when I had the several awesome hang outs w/ CBB. Come this last Monday, M and I were walking out of class w/ Katie. He said he was going to go get some food so I just said bye and hung by Katie. Katie then asked why the heck I didn't go w/ M. Umm I dunno why I didn't. So I called him real quick and asked if I could join him. He said he would love it if I did. We went to a little pizza joint and hung out. At one point he got up to go to the bathroom and when he came back he sat down next to me instead of across from me. He put his arm around me. It didn't feel weird. We talked more and more about family and life. At one point we kissed. The thoughts kept running through my head "is this a dream? Cuz it sure as heck feels like it" While I know there is technically nothing wrong with what I'm doing. CBB and I are not committed to each other. But this kind of stuff NEVER happens to me. Even when I was on Match.com, which is a dating heaven for people who like to see multiple people at a time, I always was just talking to one dude at a time. It's just weird.


What is a girl to do? I complain about joining the nunnery at one point, to all of a sudden having two guys thrown on my lap.

I think it's way to soon to call a relationship with either of these guys as well. They both have their pluses and negatives. To make matters even more confusing, they are complete opposites of each other. CBB is this big burly, "Wisconsin dude" manly man who wants to own his own brewery someday. M on the other hand is the good looking, suave, clean cut kind of guy who doesn't drink alcohol. I guess the only thing they have in common is that they like me.

As the story continues...

Soooooo this is what it feels like to date and actually have a good time? To get all giddy and excited when the boy you have a crush on texts you. I like the giddy feeling, but normally when I feel the giddy feeling I'm stuck w/ a panic attack to go right with it. The panic attack then takes over and I'm left thinking DATING SUCKS. The boy doesn't call back, the boy says he doesn't like to make plans, the boy disappears, the boy comes up w/ every excuse to not hang out w/ you but then keeps you latched on just for the heck of it.

Yes I know it's only been 2 weeks w/ CBB. Don't worry, I'm not planning our wedding or signing my name w/ his last name...yet...KIDDING. I wouldn't do that.

But the reasoning for my calm and cool demeanour? Because CBB has done the unthinkable.

He says what he means and does what he says. There haven't been mixed messages here. There hasn't been the "should I call him or will I annoy him?" worry. No "well he said he would call me, yet 4 days later my phone hasn't rung yet".

So if this is what dating is like, then sign me up folks, I'm having a good time for once!

Boy meets Girl

This is a story of boy meets girl.

Boy meets girl as he is kicking her out of the brewery due to it closing. Girl is feeling very ballsy and with a little liquid courage starts talking to bouncer boy. Bouncer boy knows drunk girls last name because he checked her ID at the front door. Drunk girl is intrigued by bouncer boy and starts talking to him about everything and anything. Drunk girl then decides that she should hang out w/ new found boy because he seems cool. Drunk girl gives her number to him and invites him out the next night. Drunk girl leaves the bar. Bouncer boy then texts drunk girl and invites her to bar again where he works.

From then on girl is finding herself hanging out at the brewery where boy works. Boy is very cute. Boy also thinks girl is cute and tells her that. Boy is very good about refilling beer for girl. This makes girl very happy.

Boy invites girl out to a friends party. Girl finds herself having a very good time and not feeling awkward. Girl is finding herself liking boy even more.

Boy and girl *finally* kiss in parking lot after boy takes girl back to her car.

Boy then texts girl to make sure she got home safe. *swoon*

Boy says fo sho which is one of girls favorite sayings.

Boy says he will call. Boy DOES call. Boy asks girl to go to Devil's Lake next Sunday.

Girl is happy.

Another one bites the dust....

Yup. You heard me right. Yet another guy is gone out of my life. Wha?!?! Did you miss some great story of me dating some random guy? Nope. It's sadly one of my good guy friends. Ray. Well I guess he isn't a good guy friend anymore huh?

Without going in to too much drama and sob story about the whole situation it's basically this. It wasn't a mutual defriend by any means. Yes there was an argument that happened back in APRIL that was apologized for the stupid things I said. I admit, I said stupid things. But guess what, I apologized right away and he said "don't worry about it" and then he said "I want to be the guy there for you" oh and the best line EVER "I'll call you tomorrow, I promise"

It's now JUNE. No call. No nothing. Oh yes, I have called. I have called quite a few times and text. Am I being crazy girl? Probably. But for the love of God, this guy has been my friend for the last 5 years. He has seen me thru all my ups and downs and is the person I tell 99% of my worries of life and everything under the sun. And we have only seen each other 3 times in our life. How does one become this close w/ a dude aside from marrying him? By talking on the phone for 5 years. That's how. And now it's all basically come to an end for me. I don't know what to do or say any more. I keep correlating this to the big breakup w/ Stupid Boy in 07. My feelings are hurt beyond belief right now. No guy has made me feel this way since Stupid Boy. The worst part of all............I don't even know what I did wrong!!!!!!!!!!! He won't even tell me why he isn't talking to me anymore. WHO DOES THAT TO THEIR FRIENDS? Yes, I have been partial to defriending some of my friends over the years, but with the other defriendings, there has been a last word of "don't talk to me every again" or "I hate you, you smell" not "I promise to call you tomorrow" And then NEVER hearing from them again!

I have come to the conclusion, I really can't trust what guys say anymore. Not even my guy friends. How sad is that?

Here are some of the great quotes guys have said to me that mean jack squat:

"If I don't call you for a few days, it doesn't mean I don't care, it just means I'm really busy" This was done by Shady Matt. Of course after saying this he proceeded to never call me back.

"I don't like to games" Said by Scuba Steve. Really Scuba? I think taking a good 48 hours to return a girls call back is playing games.

"Yeah, I can't wait to go to the concert tomorrow w/ you, I'll call you about details" This one was said by that Kurt guy a few months back. He ended up being sick and then getting rid of me the next day.

"I'll never let another guy hurt you" Said by yours truly, Stupid Boy. Little did he know after we broke my dating life has been all down hill.

"We should hang out sometime" Said by.....crap I can't remember his name...oh Preston. And I'm sure other guys have said those same words to me too.

"I don't want you to think I'm using you for a booty call" Of course The Marine. Yes, dude of course you are only wanting to use me for a booty call or for your NCAA basketball brackets.

"I'll call you sometime" Said by every guy out there.

I'm sure I could think of a trillion more, but that might just get a little too depressing.

I give up. I'm throwing in the towel at this point with the whole male species.

How does one enter the nunnery? Seriously.

Waiting for my sleeping pill to kick in...

Had I not taken a 6 hour nap, yeah that's right 6 HOURS OF NAPPING. Heck, I think that's considered just going back to bed really.

Of course, chilling at home on a Saturday night makes me feel ultra lame. Not sure why, seeing as the last two weekends in a row I have been traveling from stupid Chicago and all the way up to Green Bay, you would think I'd relish in the fact I am not doing a damn thing. Part of me does like just sitting here and part of me feels like a lame-o person.

Since I can't sleep, I figured I'd update you all w/ my guy situation. Or lack of guy situation after last night. And can I just say, I called it! He's just not that into you, well he's just not that into me I guess. My gut was a wee bit off the first date, but Thursday night my gut was right back on track with realizing this guy was just not that into me!

Almost 48 hours after I called Scuba he FINALLY called me back. 48 Hour Mystery anyone? I should have tuned into that TV show instead of whatever dumb show I was watching. I was walking out the door to meet with my cousin to catch up on our reality shows when he called. I decided to "silence" my phone when he called because I'm 99% sure he did it to me when I called Wednesday (have I mentioned it was Friday he was calling?!?!?!?!?!) I made my way over to my cousin's house.

I told her the whole situation. Short version of the story: Meet Tuesday. Called Thursday to confirm date on Sunday. 9 hour date Sunday. I called Wednesday to see what he was up to for the weekend. He called Friday and didn't leave a voicemail. First of all, who takes two days to call someone back and when they do finally call back they don't leave a voicemail. Really? Ughhh. So am I supposed to call him back? Who freaking knows? After discussing it with her and saying "Fk it, let's call him back to see what he says" I thought maybe after talking to him I'd be more clear of the situation. After Friday night it's as clear as mud to me now.

When I called Scuba back he said he was at Laredo's in Fitchburg w/ my sister, her boyfriend and our friend's Kate and Fred. He invited me out there (late invite huh?) Well since I was hanging out w/ my cousin I said the only way I'd go out there was if she could come with because I'm not ditching her when I have plans.

Without going into to much detail cuz my sleeping pill is starting to work. We got to the restaurant and sat down w/ the group. The way my friends are, they magically moved around so I was seated next to Scuba. You would think this would lead to great opportunities to talk to him. Nope that didn't really happen. While we did talk to each other, I felt like he was more talking at me and not to me. He was fine talking with the whole group of people, but one on one I felt like he didn't care I was even there. And it's not like I'm asking him to greet me w/ a big hug and devote his whole conversation to me, but come on, show me something here. The first night we met he was able to single me out somehow but I felt like I was the stranger in my own group of friends. WTF? During one of our conversations, he mentioned something about him hating Sex and the City. Ok, obviously everyone doesn't have to love every TV show and he is a guy. But then he proceeded to keep telling me how horrible of a show it was and yada yada yada. He just kept going on and on about how much of a bad show it was. Ok dude I get it. And at this point I'm a bit buzzed and annoyed with him. While he was in the bathroom Kate told me that they had kind of yelled at him for taking two days to call me back. His response was that he was unsure of things because he is going to be deployed in August and didn't know where things were going. Umm did I propose marriage during the first date? No. I understand deploying is a big deal, but we only went on one date and it's only May, we still have 2 months to figure out if we like or hate each other.

We all left at the same time and said bye. That was it. No "I'll call you" or "Way to go drinking way too many margaritas in 3 hours" nothing.

Like I said. It's as clear as mud.

The thing is, he isn't a bad guy at all. I don't think he is shady by any means. He's just not that into me, like all the guys I seem to meet.

23 hours and counting....

*Sigh*

This is the part that makes me hate dating. This is the part that makes me want to throw in the towel and say FUCK MEN. Seriously. Maybe I am having a presumptuous I hate dating/men rant, but I don't care. This is how I feel and this is why I get the nervous breakdowns when it comes to men.

Scuba and I went out Sunday night. It's now Thursday night and I haven't heard anything from him. "Did you call him?" Yup I called him. I called him last night at 8 o'clock to see how he was doing and if he wanted to do something this weekend. It's now been 23 hours since I left the voicemail. Sure he could call within the hour so he could make it under my "if I call you and leave a message, you have 24 hours to respond" Am I playing games? No. I'm not going to wait around for some guy to call me. AND furthermore, even had I not called him last night it would be 4 days since our first date.

I'm pretty sure I made it clear I wanted to hang out again and I'm pretty sure he seemed into me. Soooooooooooooo what is the problem here? If he is into me, why has he not called? If he isn't into me, ok then, let me know then.

I hate the games, I hate the excitement of a first date and then the realization that it was nothing, I hate everything there is when it comes to dating.

42min till the 24 hour mark.

9 hour long date...

Thank god it didn't feel like a 9 hour long date. I realize you can do a ton of things in 9 hours..Drive to another state and back, have a full work day...so it's amazing that I can say that from 4pm yesterday to 1am I hung out w/ Scuba. Wowza.

Scuba picked me up (yeah!!!) and we headed downtown. I asked him what his plan was and he said we were going to go down to Barrique's for a bit. Barrique's is a cute little coffee/wine shop, normally I'm not a fan of their coffee, but I got a mint iced tea instead. We sat outside, which it was decently night out for once. It was nice and casual just hanging outside talking. He talked a ton about living out in California. And wow, he can talk a ton. He kept catching himself talking a lot and would quickly ask me a question because I think he felt bad. Honestly, all the dates I go on, it seems I'm the talker and the one holding the conversation. It was nice to sit back and let him do the work.

After we finished our drinks, we headed towards the Square and walked around. Since he really didn't have a plan at all, we mosey around for a bit. We sat there at a stand still trying to decide where we should go next. He said there was an Indian restaurant down the road on W. Wash, and since I like trying new foods I figured we could go there. It was cool that he was so open to eating different foods, I'm a big advocate of dating non picky eaters. I dunno what it is, but I really don't like picky eaters. The way I grew up, we ate everything on our plate and I think that's why I am not a picky eater at all. I.eat.everything. That probably could be why I love food so much. Hmmm...

Scuba is a very easy guy to talk. He has tons of funny stories and life experiences (wow I sound like my teacher Janet when I say that) By the time we finished dinner it was 7pm..time was flying! We headed down to Lucky's bar to play shuffle board. He kept calling it shuffle puck and I told him he was wrong, it's call shuffle board. Silly boy. We played two games, while you can rock at shuffle board you can also suck at shuffle board at the same time. We each won one game. Afterwards we sat there for a bit talking. While we were talking he was saying something about the shoe slide at Vilas park. I had no idea what he was talking about. He kept saying it was his favorite thing as a kid and he couldn't believe I didn't know about the shoe slide at Vilas park even though I had been there tons of times. So I told him to prove it about this shoe slide.

We drove to Vilas park which was only a few minutes away. Upon review of the shoe slide, I still for the life of me couldn't remember this being a big attraction for me when I was little. We sat on the swings and again just kept talking. For some reason I kept imagining this was some scene from a movie, going to the park late at night and swinging and probably a bit of kissing action. But there wasn't any kiss! We were probably there for a good hour just hanging out. It was about 10 o'clock so we decided to head home.

We got back to my place and I did the thing most people say not to do on a first date. Invite the guy up. Oops. So we just hung out on the couch talking/cuddling. Oh and kissing. Some definite kissing was going on. He's a good kisser too.

So yeah, at about 1am I was falling asleep/kissing him we decided to call it a night and he went home.

Questions people will probably ask that I hate:
Did you guys make plans to go out again? No we didn't. I'm for once in my life not worried about it. So take a chill pill.

Wing Tuesday w/ a side of.....

Beer and possibly a date on Sunday?


Whoa, where the heck did this come from? While I came to the realization that I haven't been on a first date since way back in January and it's now officially the middle of May. And it's not because I have been dating steadily or anything. It's simply because I haven't been asked out in that long. Sad huh? Well if I do say so myself, I believe I have a first date on Sunday. Enjoy the magical story....OK this story is so not magical, but it's a cool story none the less.


Last night my sister and I went for a run after work. After we got done I could tell she was talking to her boyfriend Braden and saying she would meet up for Wing Tuesday at Buffalo Wild Wings. She asked if I wanted to go. Normally I play the old lady card and say "No, I'm much to tired and would like to just make myself some supper and go to bed like the good girl I am" But.....I really had no desire to cook last night and I turned in my last homework assignment of the semester and kind of was in the mood to celebrate. So I said "sure let's go" Then I of course asked if I was the 3rd wheel tagging along w/ her and Braden. She said that Scuba Steve should be there and a few other people. Okie dokie then!


Arriving at Buffalo Wild Wings we found Braden, Scuba and their friends in the bar. Like any of the guys I meet that are Angie's friends they say "wow you two look exactly alike" yeah I have heard this since I was 5 so I'm kind of used to it by now. When we got there though, Scuba Steve shouted "Holy crap Angie!!!!! That's your sister! WHOA! You can tell you two are sisters!" Uhh I don't think I have ever gotten that enthusiastic of a remark before.



In reviewing of Scuba Steve, I noticed he was wearing a Wing T-shirt, which of course prominently had wing stains on it. He said he had made the shirt at work (oh he is an Air Force dude) and wears it to wing night. College Frat boy anyone? I thought it was actually kind of funny. I mean really, a wing shirt. And if anyone of you have seen me eat, you know I enjoy just whiping my fingers on my shirt and not napkins, so he really came in handy last night.



After downing a few beers, wings and chips, I had that good feeling going. That in between happy fullness of wings and beer. Scuba Steve is what I would say, a loud guy. Not in an obnoxious way or anything though. Everyone at the table was talking, watching the Brewers and Bruins hockey game just having a grand ol time. I heard Scuba Steve make the comment about going out on a date w/ someone, so me being the snarky one I am I said "huh? you date?" He looked over at me and he had the "wow, she's got a bit of attitude" He said "yeah I date, what are you doing Friday night?" Ummm did he just ask me out? Whoa! So not expecting that! I said "umm I have a Keith Urban concert Friday" He's got some balls asking me out in front of everyone-including my sister. Of course Angie quickly hit me and she's like "this guy just asked you out in front of everyone and you turned him down! at least give him another option to go out w/ you" Doh! I normally don't have guys asking me out and I have to turn them down. A little bit later the other couple that was there left and there was the chairs next to me open. I told Scuba Steve to come sit by me-totally in a "come hither way" errr or not, I was more like "get over here" we started chatting more. He brought up that fact that I totally turned him down in front of every and he felt like an idiot. So I told him, that even though I was busy Friday, there were other dates he could ask me out for. He then picked Saturday night. Oh and here comes the "hanging my head in Keith Urban shame" Umm I had to bust out laughing and explain I was going to Keith Urban's concert on Saturday too. Wow, while I love my Keith Urban obsession and everything, I really felt like a major dork turning down a guy twice to go to a Keith Urban show. I quickly told him I wasn't trying to blow him off, I really was seeing Keith twice in the same weekend. I suggested maybe doing something on Sunday then. He stated that people don't go out on Sunday's. I said, well dude if you want to take me out then we are going out on Sunday. We chatted for a bit more. Angie and Braden left so it was just me and him chilling. He was a pretty funny guy. I looked at my phone and realized it was 11:.30. Holy crap time flew! I said we should probably get going cuz I needed to get up and go to this thing called work on Wednesday morning.



We walked out to the parking lot and I asked him which car was his. We walked over to it and he says "I really want to kiss you right now" and he kissed me! I was fully blown away that he was that ballsy and just kissed me. It was pretty damn cool if you ask me. He didn't beat around the bush. He just did it! It was a good kiss too. And of course during this time my sister has to be my sister and call me and ask what I'm doing. Not only did she call once, she called twice. Thanks sis.

He took my number and said he would call me about hanging out on Sunday. And he kissed me again.

I then drove home and watched The Real Housewives of NJ until 1am, for really no reason.

Oh and as for the nickname Scuba Steve, no clue why everyone calls him that, but it's kind of nice that I don't have to worry about finding a nickname for him.

Are you there vodka? It's me Andrea

OMG. You have got to read the book "Are you there vodka? It's me Chelsea" by Chelsea Handler. Aren't book titles supposed to be underlined? I can't find the underline button. Either way, find this book at your local library or stimulate the economy and buy it. If you enjoy reading my blog-the whole 3 1/2 people who do, then you need to get this book. Story of my life! Except for the whole stand up comedian thing. She also has written another booked called "My horizontal life: a collection of one night stands" I also have on hold at the local library (I'm cheap! And I don't like buying books) I can't wait to read that. Now on to my weekend.....

What started off as a 3 hour nap on Friday....oops! I made my way down to Chicago to visit my friend Aimee who I have known since 2nd grade. That's a whole lotta years of knowing someone. Aimee wasn't done with work till 10pm, so it was just me and her husband drinking beer-Leinenkugel's Fireside Nut Brown and chilliing on the couch watching Family Guy. Not to shabby for a Friday night. Aimee came home and we hung out watching tv for a bit and then it was off to bed because I was the lucky one taking her dance class the next morning.

While trying to fall asleep, The Marine text me w/ the standard "what are you up to?" Since I was actually awake and coherent I text back. We chatted for almost an hour of nonsense texting. I was getting annoyed at this point, it was almost 3am and he still hadn't called me. I text him back saying "If you want to talk call me. I'm done texting" I waited a good 15-20min and there was no call. So I said fk it and turned off my phone cuz I was getting tired. I awoke the next day ready for an exciting day of Core Rythms dance class I got to take. I turned my phone on and there was a voicemail and a text message from The Marine. The text came at 3:30am saying "You tell me to call you and then you turn off your phone. thanks" the voice mail was of him hanging up the phone. While most of your are thinking "WTG Andrea, way to get back at him for all the crap he has done to you" I actually felt bad. Why on earth do I feel bad for turning my phone off for The Marine? Sigh. I text back "My phone died while waiting for you to call me" Why no, my phone didn't die, but I did wait. So there I sat feeling guilty. This guy sure knows how to make a girl feel guilty. Stupid stupid boys. Aimee told me not to feel guilty, and I shouldn't feel guilty damnit! He has done this kind of thing to me ALL THE FREAKING TIME! I have tried putting it int he back of my mind now.

After the fantastic Core Rythms class-hey news flash! I have no rythm! Aimee and I made our way out to the outlet mall for some much needed retail therapy session. Trying on a gazillion clothing items is fun, cept for noticing how white your skin is. I could be albino at this point folks.

Hours of shopping and eating some sushi for dinner, we went back to her house and got ready for a night out for her friend Cathy's birthday. Dressing to impress as always, we made out way out in Chicago. Now I ask you this, out of all the bars in Chicago, how the heck did Aimee and I end up at the same place that a guy who went to our high school with? We both didn't know the guy, but recognized him. Still...how does this happen? Anyways, I started off drinking Blue Moon beer, two of those babies down and I was feeling great. I then out of stupidity changed it up to vodka cranberries. Ohhhh yeah, I'm a moron. I haven't had much hard liquor lately since it normally leaves me feeling like crud. But I was apparently in the mood for some and figured I might as well kill my UTI in the mean time. Kiddin! I don't have a UTI.

2 beers and 4 vodka cranberries later (I swear they didn't put any vodka in them, all I tasted was juice) I was feeling GREAT! I was out on the dance floor doing my best dancing ever. Now this kind of dancing I can do, Core Rythms, yeah not so much. I got the courage to go up to a random guy and make fun of his Chicago Bears hat. Being a Green Bay Packer fan, it's a must. Soon as I started talking to this douche, I quickly realized he was a douche. I then walked away. Even his voice was douchey and annoying. I then somehow started dancing w/ this one guy in a funky sweater. He was cute, but after we were done dancing we walked away from each other. Story of my life apparently. Chicago had plenty of men to offer me, but to my luck as always, there was no makeout or going home with-probably a good thing seeing as I wouldn't know how to find my way home.

We left the bar and were driving (we had a sober driver, no worries) It was me, Aimee, Henry and her friend Chuck. Aimee isn't the real hard core drinker like I am. While I'm telling this story as accuretly as I can I don't want to leave out any important facts. She was in the front seat when she proclaims she has to puke. So there we are going down I-90 in Chicago w/ Aimee puking out the window. It was a site I have waited for my whole life-probably since 2nd grade. I had the great buzz going that I thought it was hilarious she was puking. Great friend I am huh?

On the ride home I managed to drunk dial The Marine-he didn't pick up-shocker! Ray-didn't pick up either and Rod who again didn't pick up, but did text me asking what was up. Wow, 3 for 3 and no one was picking up. I feel like a loser now.

Sunday we went and got a massage, but we were both hung over like no other. I drove home that afternoon, well I guess not home really. I went to a concert. Guess what? Concerts and hang overs and 4 hours of sleep aren't a good idea. And it was a hard rock show too. Had I not been in the condition I was and had good mosh pit shoes (ballet flats are a big no no) I think I have a bruise on my shoulder from being beat Sunday night.

The concert was amazing, I went w/ my friend Louise. Apprently anytime Louise and I hang out in Madison, we are bound to see a guy I went out with or made out w/. And low behold, there was DL, a guy I had went out two dates w/ and then he disappeared. Again, story of my life.

That is the weekend wrap up. This coming weekend I am going back down to Chicago for my boyfriend Keith Urban's concert. Saturday morning I have a 20 mile run, then I'm heading up for another one of Keith's shows in Green Bay. Highly doubtful I will meet any boys there. The only guys that go to his shows are the ones who are drug by their girlfriends.